So I recognize these court are quite biased, and that there are more dumpees 보다 dumpers here.

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But exactly how long did it take because that you, the dumper come start absent the one friend dumped? also if castle didn"t perform NC, go this do you miss them less?

Most civilization probably would certainly feel relieved, ns assume to get out that a relationship, however at some point down the road, they would miss the ex.

 

The point is, would you carry out anything even if you did miss out on the ex, or simply put that in the back of your mind and shot and forget about it?


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minitoons


Posted June 15, 2009

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I dumped one 9 months back due come compatibility reason. I"m tho trying to gain over she totally. Very first 3 months to be quite tough to obtain by yet I had to execute what I had actually to do, NC and stuff.

 

9 month down, I"m still lacking her occasionally not all the moment of course. Ns think i miss the time we had actually together, maybe lust? yet i understand its fading slowly.


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thejigsup


Posted June 15, 2009

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Posted June 15, 2009

I"ve been both the dumper and the dumpee. When I"m the dumper, ns can"t mental ever lacking the guy I dumped. It was over on mine side and that is why ns dumped them. As a dumpee, I"ve missed people for awhile, however I believe life is for living, so ns just gain on v it and enjoy life. I"ve seen as well many civilization waste priceless months and also years of their resides moping end someone who no longer provides them a thought. I will never do that!


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k1k1


Posted June 15, 2009

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Oh, and if you didnt have someone waiting, how long did that take for you to be v someone else?


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D_Lish


Posted June 15, 2009

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Posted June 15, 2009

I"ve been a "dumper" once and also the dumpee, a few times....lol

 

As the Dumper, i missed him almost immediatley and also because ns was unsure about dumping him, however I did and missed him practically immediatley. I sat back and waited of that crawling back, however he didn"t.....so two weeks later, i contacted him and also we got ago together.

 

As the "dumpee", many of my exes came crawling ago at some suggest after lock dumped me, varying from 2 days to ten years after......Some i reconciled with, part I didn"t.....but none ever before lasted.


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Puckdog27


Posted June 15, 2009

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Posted June 15, 2009

Dumped her 3mos ago, started lacking her 3 weeks ago. Us werent totally compatiable which is why ns left, however now I view we werent all that bad either


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vertigoxo


Posted June 15, 2009

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Posted June 15, 2009

The only ways to make an ex miss out on you is by doing strict NC, (Not even appearing in the same places as they room in public. JUST autumn OFF THE challenge OF THE EARTH, basically.) relocating on fully without them, and maybe fallout’s in love through someone else.

 

I mean... How numerous times have you heard who complaining about their boy/girlfriend"s ex gaining in the way?

 

Jealousy is a very an effective thing, indeed...


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Aldonza


Posted June 15, 2009

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Technically ns was the dumper in my recent relationship. Ns missed that as shortly as i did it. However I walk it since nothing had adjusted since getting back together, specifically the points that we"d agreed were a trouble before. Back to NC. Perhaps he"ll number it out, or possibly not, but I"m not waiting about to discover out.

 

But I"ve likewise been the dumper in other relationships whereby I didn"t miss the dumpee in ~ all. I"d either entirely processed the decision before the end (as ns did through my marriage), or it was never there to start with (relationships lasting a few weeks or months.) In one case, a guy gained so clingy with me after simply a few dates that dumping that felt choose a complete and also utter relief! (It was an excellent education in what part dumpers feeling like when they need some space.)

 

So...how long? maybe immediately. Perhaps never. Walk that small it under for you?


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Helis4life


Posted June 19, 2009

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Posted June 19, 2009

My ex no seem to miss me, back its just been 2.5 months and she had someone else straight away. Ns bought she a details breed that kitten once i was with her. Cost a fortune and also was an for sure beautiful kitten. No sure how she deserve to look in ~ it and also not think that me yet then perhaps i didnt recognize her as well as i believed 0.0

 

oh well, together is life


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toni2007


Posted June 19, 2009

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I to be the dumper twice and the very first time I had thought it through, an extremely carefully and I was an extremely determined it take it me nearly 4 months to intake him however I didn"t miss out on him, contact him, nothing.

 

The 2nd guy ns dumped, i wasn"t together careful however we had too numerous problems. As I to be dumping him i didn"t desire to perform it and also the minute i walked out i cried and I to be miserable and missed the horribly.

 

Now I"m the dumpee, and this time I know my ex didn"t think it with so I"m certain he"ll miss me. He has actually commitment issues, he"s a momma"s young and very stubborn but it"ll eventually record up come him. Remember the the dumpers are human beings they simply can"t avoid loving girlfriend from at some point to the next.


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sunnyv


Posted June 19, 2009

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Posted June 19, 2009

thanks toni. That provides sense. Ns think lock just select not to display their feelings therefore they can move on and be v someone rather or attain a score they collection out to achieve. It just hurts watching somoene who said they loved you and also you slept alongside every night because that years simply walk out of your life and also never call you again.


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DaveTrump


Posted June 20, 2009

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Posted June 20, 2009

As a dumper, I have actually wondered, "What if?"

 

As a dumpee, I tend to wonder, What the....?!!


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HighRoad


Posted June 20, 2009

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i think it rely on how solid your feeling were and how significant the relationship was.

 

Yep, me too.

 

I dumped someone when and almost immediately regret it. Ns was young and also didn"t feeling comfortable v the gentle, love feelings of my first boyfriend. I thought around it, and also then ns went ago to him and also he never asked any kind of questions. He to be a sweet guy.

 

O/w, I have tended to no dump people, yet then i am also an extremely slow and careful prior to I think about getting associated with people. I tend to take alot of time on my own and place my own joy first, and also I am certainly not a an extremely dating type of person. If the happens, it wake up - type of thing.

 

This last man, well, I dropped like a ton that bricks - so come speak - and I assumption: v I thought he did too. Yet after a couple of feverish month he disappeared and - maybe, when I assumed it was a huge deal partnership for me (and because that him) in the end it seems likely that it could have to be just more of a fling for him. Otherwise, how could he simply disappear top top me? no goodbye, no argument no discussion - the last ns heard the was absent me, was dealing with family and life things and that he want to hear indigenous me. But, he never ever responded to my gentle, loving blog post or another I sent a few months later.

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It"s possible he has actually suddenly lost all feeling for me, yet that appears weird. I simply can"t understand what that felt or whether he walk still feeling something for me. 6 months later, i am moving on however definitely still have actually deep feelings because that him. Oh, well. Got to turn them over and let go.